You see, the not so funny thing about mood swings or mental disorders is that the person with the aforementioned condition, is generally not aware when they are displaying it. Generally. So telling someone while they are having a mood swing, say, for example, a spell of depression “not to be so sad all the time”… will not actually make them feel better. Some other phrases you may want to avoid include “I can’t be around you when you’re always so depressing”, “why can’t you just cheer up”, “mood disorders aren’t real”, and “look at me, I’m not always sad and I have it worse than you”. Just, you know.. as some examples.
One. When someone says they’re sad, angry, hurt, offended, etc. it is not you job to tell them that they are not.
Two. It is not possible for you to directly compare your life, your stresses, your problems, your way of thinking, your sexuality, your beliefs, etc. to theirs.
and Three. You cannot change someone’s mind that sees no problem with what they have done.
I have recently been told that I am going to make my son depressed because I have depression and refuse medication. But let me explain my reasoning; I do not have any feelings of self-harm, I do not turn to any substances to make me happy, I rarely take Tylenol for pain let alone any other medications, I eat when I’m hungry or for nutrition and do not go several days of over- or under- eating in a row (the odd binge day or too busy to eat but I am healthy), I don’t spend days in solitude, I maintain regular relationships, and I feel comfortable enough in myself to wear what I please, say what I like, and tell someone to mind their own on the behalf of myself or another.
On the other hand I do, have days when the idea of being around people repels me, when I cry because my plans changed, I cry for no reason and know that I have no reason, when I think so far into the future and get overwhelmed that there is both so much to do and that it is happening now… But I don’t think that these things obligate me to require regular medication to function, or else be thought of as a horrible mother. I only want the best for my baby, and if it came to a point where I was having weeks or emotional instability, and my health and well being compromised my ability to be a parent I would probably reconsider. But at this point in my life I feel comfortable enough to remain as I am. Some opinions are made from a point of understanding and empathy, some from sympathy and judgement. It’s not always easy to tell the two apart.
Good luck and best wishes,
I’m only human